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溝通原則十五條
溝通原則十五條:
一.講出來
尤其是坦白的講出來你內心的感受.感情.痛苦.想法和期望,但絕對不是批評.責備.抱怨.攻擊;
二.不批評.不責備.不抱怨.不攻擊.不說教
批評.責備.抱怨.攻擊這些都是溝通的劊子手,只會使事情惡化;
三.互相尊重
只有給予對方尊重才有溝通,若對方不尊重你時,你也要適當的請求對方的尊重,否則很難溝通;
四.絕不口出惡言
惡言傷人,就是所謂的 [ 禍從口出 ];
五.不說不該說的話
如果說了不該說的話,往往要花費極大的代價來彌補,正是所謂的 [ 一言既出.駟馬難追 ] .[ 病從口入,禍從口出 ]甚至於還可能造成無可彌補的終生遺憾哩!所以溝通不能夠信口雌黃.口無遮攔;但是完全不說話,有時後也會變得更惡劣。
六.情緒中不要溝通,尤其是不能夠做決定
情緒中的溝通常常無好話,既理不清,也講不明;尤其在情緒中,很容易衝動而失去理性;如:吵的不可開交的夫妻.反目成仇的父母子女.對峙已久的上司下屬...尤其是不能夠在情緒中做出情緒性.衝動性的[決定],這很容易讓事情不可挽回,令人後悔!
七.理性的溝通,不理性不要溝通
不理性只有爭執的份,不會有結果,更不可能有好結果,所以,這種溝通無濟於事;
八.覺知
不只是溝通才需要覺知,一切都需要......如果自己說錯了話.做錯了事,如不想造成無可彌補的傷害時,最好的辦法是什麼???(我錯了),這就是一種覺知;
九.承認我錯了
承認我錯了是溝通的消毒劑,可解凍.改善與轉化溝通的問題;就一句:我錯了!勾銷了多少人的新仇舊恨,化解掉多少年打不開的死結,讓人豁然開朗,放下武 器,重新面對自己,開始重新思考人生,甚至於我是誰??在這浩瀚的宇宙洪流裡,人最在意的就是[我],如果有人不尊重我.打壓我.欺負我或侮辱我時,即使 是親如父子,都可能反目成仇,偏淚一點的,離家出走還算什麼,死給你看的例子都屢見不鮮哩!
十.說對不起!!
說對不起,不代表我真的做了什麼天大的錯誤或傷天害理的事,而是一種軟化劑,使事情終有[轉圜]的餘地,甚至於還可以創造[天堂];其實有時候你也真的是大錯特錯,死不認錯就是一件大錯特錯的事;
十一.讓奇蹟發生
如今自己願意互相認錯,就是在替自己與家人創造了天堂與奇蹟;化不可能為可能...
十二.愛
一切都是愛,[愛是最偉大的治療師]..
十三.等待轉機
如果沒有轉機,就要等待;急只會治絲益棼;當然,不要空等待,成果就會從天下掉下來,還是要你自己去努力,但是努力並不一定會有結果,或捨本逐末;但若不努力時,你將什麼都沒有;
十四.耐心
等待唯一不可少的是耐心,有志者事竟成...
十五.智慧
智慧使人不執著,而且福至心靈
人生中最难的事。。。为自己努力！加油不放弃！
一.講出來
尤其是坦白的講出來你內心的感受.感情.痛苦.想法和期望,但絕對不是批評.責備.抱怨.攻擊;
二.不批評.不責備.不抱怨.不攻擊.不說教
批評.責備.抱怨.攻擊這些都是溝通的劊子手,只會使事情惡化;
三.互相尊重
只有給予對方尊重才有溝通,若對方不尊重你時,你也要適當的請求對方的尊重,否則很難溝通;
四.絕不口出惡言
惡言傷人,就是所謂的 [ 禍從口出 ];
五.不說不該說的話
如果說了不該說的話,往往要花費極大的代價來彌補,正是所謂的 [ 一言既出.駟馬難追 ] .[ 病從口入,禍從口出 ]甚至於還可能造成無可彌補的終生遺憾哩!所以溝通不能夠信口雌黃.口無遮攔;但是完全不說話,有時後也會變得更惡劣。
六.情緒中不要溝通,尤其是不能夠做決定
情緒中的溝通常常無好話,既理不清,也講不明;尤其在情緒中,很容易衝動而失去理性;如:吵的不可開交的夫妻.反目成仇的父母子女.對峙已久的上司下屬...尤其是不能夠在情緒中做出情緒性.衝動性的[決定],這很容易讓事情不可挽回,令人後悔!
七.理性的溝通,不理性不要溝通
不理性只有爭執的份,不會有結果,更不可能有好結果,所以,這種溝通無濟於事;
八.覺知
不只是溝通才需要覺知,一切都需要......如果自己說錯了話.做錯了事,如不想造成無可彌補的傷害時,最好的辦法是什麼???(我錯了),這就是一種覺知;
九.承認我錯了
承認我錯了是溝通的消毒劑,可解凍.改善與轉化溝通的問題;就一句:我錯了!勾銷了多少人的新仇舊恨,化解掉多少年打不開的死結,讓人豁然開朗,放下武 器,重新面對自己,開始重新思考人生,甚至於我是誰??在這浩瀚的宇宙洪流裡,人最在意的就是[我],如果有人不尊重我.打壓我.欺負我或侮辱我時,即使 是親如父子,都可能反目成仇,偏淚一點的,離家出走還算什麼,死給你看的例子都屢見不鮮哩!
十.說對不起!!
說對不起,不代表我真的做了什麼天大的錯誤或傷天害理的事,而是一種軟化劑,使事情終有[轉圜]的餘地,甚至於還可以創造[天堂];其實有時候你也真的是大錯特錯,死不認錯就是一件大錯特錯的事;
十一.讓奇蹟發生
如今自己願意互相認錯,就是在替自己與家人創造了天堂與奇蹟;化不可能為可能...
十二.愛
一切都是愛,[愛是最偉大的治療師]..
十三.等待轉機
如果沒有轉機,就要等待;急只會治絲益棼;當然,不要空等待,成果就會從天下掉下來,還是要你自己去努力,但是努力並不一定會有結果,或捨本逐末;但若不努力時,你將什麼都沒有;
十四.耐心
等待唯一不可少的是耐心,有志者事竟成...
十五.智慧
智慧使人不執著,而且福至心靈
人生中最难的事。。。为自己努力！加油不放弃！
15 things you need to give up to make your life happier.
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
「擔心」與「祝福」
一位朋友常常需要加班，日夜顛倒。因與家人同住，
所以他媽媽常會擔心，常唸他：要記得吃飯，別太晚睡，
開車要小心等等，這樣的嘮叨每天反覆好幾次，
朋友已見怪不怪，習以為常。只是有時朋友也會覺得不耐煩，
一見到母親就想逃，免得聽她囉嗦半天。
有一次朋友赴花蓮採訪證嚴法師，聽到證嚴法師說一句話，他覺得很有道理。
朋友聽到這樣的話十分興奮，一回到家馬上轉述證嚴法師的話給他媽媽聽。
朋友說，從此以後，他母親就很少再對他嘮叨了，他看到母親也不會再躲，
反而在下班之餘，會找母親聊聊天，他覺得現在他跟母親像朋友一般自在。
媽媽常常是一家的靈魂人物，她掌握了一個家的家庭氣氛，我相信：
如果沒一個快樂的媽媽，就很難有一個快樂的家庭。
然而，大多數的媽媽都過份地擔憂子女：課業，工作，婚姻，
健康---幾乎無所不擔心，你想這樣的媽媽會快樂嗎？
用超心理學的潛意識說法，就是所謂的「心想事成」這句話。
一件事情如果你用很大的「念力」去相信它，它就會如你所相信的去「實現」你相信的。
一個媽媽如果相信：她的孩子有能力去面對他自己的生活困境與難題，
那麼這個相信就是一個「祝福」，而她的孩子也會因著這樣的祝福而蒙福的。
相反的，如果一個母親老是「覺得」她的孩子不懂事，不會照顧自己，
一定會吃虧上當的， 那麼這個「擔心」很可能就成了「詛咒」，
以後你的孩子果然就會如你之前所擔心的那樣，老是出狀況令你擔心。
你的願有多大，實踐的力量就有多大。
從今天起，我們當要當心去檢查自己的每個「念頭」，你對孩子：
是擔心多？還是祝福多呢？真的，愛你的孩子，與其擔心，不如祝福吧！
所以他媽媽常會擔心，常唸他：要記得吃飯，別太晚睡，
開車要小心等等，這樣的嘮叨每天反覆好幾次，
朋友已見怪不怪，習以為常。只是有時朋友也會覺得不耐煩，
一見到母親就想逃，免得聽她囉嗦半天。
有一次朋友赴花蓮採訪證嚴法師，聽到證嚴法師說一句話，他覺得很有道理。
她說：「如果一個父母常常擔心他的孩子，他的孩子會沒有福氣；
因為福氣都被父母給擔心掉了。」
師父又說：「如果父母希望他的孩子有福氣，就要多多祝福他的孩子，
而不是擔心她的孩子。」
朋友聽到這樣的話十分興奮，一回到家馬上轉述證嚴法師的話給他媽媽聽。
朋友說，從此以後，他母親就很少再對他嘮叨了，他看到母親也不會再躲，
反而在下班之餘，會找母親聊聊天，他覺得現在他跟母親像朋友一般自在。
媽媽常常是一家的靈魂人物，她掌握了一個家的家庭氣氛，我相信：
如果沒一個快樂的媽媽，就很難有一個快樂的家庭。
然而，大多數的媽媽都過份地擔憂子女：課業，工作，婚姻，
健康---幾乎無所不擔心，你想這樣的媽媽會快樂嗎？
用超心理學的潛意識說法，就是所謂的「心想事成」這句話。
一件事情如果你用很大的「念力」去相信它，它就會如你所相信的去「實現」你相信的。
一個媽媽如果相信：她的孩子有能力去面對他自己的生活困境與難題，
那麼這個相信就是一個「祝福」，而她的孩子也會因著這樣的祝福而蒙福的。
相反的，如果一個母親老是「覺得」她的孩子不懂事，不會照顧自己，
一定會吃虧上當的， 那麼這個「擔心」很可能就成了「詛咒」，
以後你的孩子果然就會如你之前所擔心的那樣，老是出狀況令你擔心。
你的願有多大，實踐的力量就有多大。
從今天起，我們當要當心去檢查自己的每個「念頭」，你對孩子：
是擔心多？還是祝福多呢？真的，愛你的孩子，與其擔心，不如祝福吧！
巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的天堂
每年的五月到八月（冬天），澳洲大墨鱼就会聚集在这里出席墨鱼界的年度盛典！他们在冰冷的海水中寻找伴侣，然后展开求偶仪式，最后生下小墨鱼宝宝。这个地方，有个气势非凡的外号。。。
没错，这里有闻名世界的潜水地区，是许多潜水爱好者不会错过的 Dive Spot。大家都会在这个季节从世界各地来观看这墨鱼的庆典。准确地点位于离 Whyalla 35km 外的 Point Lowly，坐落在 Spencer Gulf。从 Adelaide 开往 Whyalla 的途中在看见 Point Lowly 的路牌转左（分叉路口有上面那张大大的 "Whyalla, where outback meets the sea" 告示牌）沿着 Port Bonython Rd 往 Point Lowly 的方向开去，再过5分钟，会见到右边有一条通往海边的小路，路名为 Cuttlefish Drive，沿着篱笆行使大约2分钟，便会抵达 “墨鱼村庄” 了。
以下是 Dive Site 的资料：
Max Depth: 5m
Water temperature: 10-15 Degree Celsius
Entry type: Shore dive (fence-line entry point)
Difficulty: Easy
Cuttlefish Mating Season: May to August
潜水之前，可以先到那里海边的告示牌看看，里头有巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的资料，同时也有记载潜水的资讯和这个潜水区的注意事项。在这里潜水地区会看到的，是一大片 berry seaweed 和许许多多的墨鱼。通常墨鱼们都会聚集在浅滩地带，稍微往深处前进，也许会看到一些不同种类的小鱼，虾子 和 nudibranches 等等，但在这里找不到 Blue swimmer 螃蟹，因为他们全被饥饿的墨鱼吃光光了！=D （注：这里有时会有水母出现，这次我就遇到了几群，看墨鱼的时候别忘了也要主意四周，别被水母kiss到咯）
这是我第二次旧地重游，但这一次的气温却比上次来的寒冷多了。 早上起来才0.7度而已，真正感觉的温度（app temp) 是零下2.9 度！OMG 难怪我一直在发抖打冷颤。一下车就立刻换上了潜水服，温暖的感觉马上又回到了我的怀中。。打点好一切，就往海岸线出发！！
通往墨鱼村庄的，是一条长长的碎石大道。到水里之后，继续往前进，经过大大小小的石头，最后会来到一片一望无际青黄色的 Berry Weed。欢迎光临抵达了巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的温暖窝。
在蔚蓝的海里，大大小小的墨鱼们正在召开家庭会议。他们身上奇特鲜艳的色彩及可爱W型的眼睛是巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的特征。墨鱼们能够瞬间变换身上的颜色与周围的环境作匹配。在沙石里如果不仔细看，有时侯真的蛮难找到他们的踪影。这颜色转换特质也是他们求偶的必备，也可以说是 《墨鱼追女宝典》 里的最强杀手锏！
这趟旅程的主要目标，是希望能够看到墨鱼利用身上的颜色变换来追求伴侣，并将他们拍摄下来。很幸运的这次拍到了一些珍贵的照片及影片能和大家分享分享。以下是墨鱼们的玉照以及本届墨鱼求偶舞蹈大赛的冠军得主照片。
以下两段影片是我在摄氏10度并冷水中寻觅了好久才拍摄到的珍贵记录片。里头的男主角都很卖力地为我演出。他们身上的色素在快速的变换着，每一寸肌肤都像是一个L.E.D 在闪耀着迷人的色彩。黑白黄蓝青红绿不停的交替着，帅呆了！！ （难怪美女墨鱼会对他们如此的着迷 XD）
看到它，我好像看见了一只有很多鼻子的大象在对着我傻笑 XD
绚丽色彩浪漫的追逐战
总是觉得墨鱼的造型很像来自外太空的生物，或者是外星人的太空船 ^^
经过40了分钟，终于抵不过寒冷的海水，我上岸了。
今年墨鱼数量似乎减少了，是否是因为今年气候失常的缘故？还是因为海洋生态的改变？这一切就不得而知了。希望冬天里能有点机会参与海底生态保护及观察活动，寻找到底是什么原因导致墨鱼的数量减少了。每一次的体验，都会让我想起一句话， “只有亲身体验过，才会懂得珍惜与感恩” 。这一次也再次的见证了大自然的奥妙与神奇。地球上物种成千上万，有好多频临绝种，有好多数量在持续的递减着。无论是否是天择本来都会发生的效应，还是人类活动导致的后果，我们都应该好好的思考如何为这一切维持个平衡点，毕竟世间万物息息相关，没有一个能独立存在，而我们共享这唯一一个地球，就因该好好的爱护它，你说是吗？ =)
"Where Outback Meets The Oceans" - WHYALLA!
没错，这里有闻名世界的潜水地区，是许多潜水爱好者不会错过的 Dive Spot。大家都会在这个季节从世界各地来观看这墨鱼的庆典。准确地点位于离 Whyalla 35km 外的 Point Lowly，坐落在 Spencer Gulf。从 Adelaide 开往 Whyalla 的途中在看见 Point Lowly 的路牌转左（分叉路口有上面那张大大的 "Whyalla, where outback meets the sea" 告示牌）沿着 Port Bonython Rd 往 Point Lowly 的方向开去，再过5分钟，会见到右边有一条通往海边的小路，路名为 Cuttlefish Drive，沿着篱笆行使大约2分钟，便会抵达 “墨鱼村庄” 了。
以下是 Dive Site 的资料：
Max Depth: 5m
Water temperature: 10-15 Degree Celsius
Entry type: Shore dive (fence-line entry point)
Difficulty: Easy
Cuttlefish Mating Season: May to August
潜水之前，可以先到那里海边的告示牌看看，里头有巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的资料，同时也有记载潜水的资讯和这个潜水区的注意事项。在这里潜水地区会看到的，是一大片 berry seaweed 和许许多多的墨鱼。通常墨鱼们都会聚集在浅滩地带，稍微往深处前进，也许会看到一些不同种类的小鱼，虾子 和 nudibranches 等等，但在这里找不到 Blue swimmer 螃蟹，因为他们全被饥饿的墨鱼吃光光了！=D （注：这里有时会有水母出现，这次我就遇到了几群，看墨鱼的时候别忘了也要主意四周，别被水母kiss到咯）
这是我第二次旧地重游，但这一次的气温却比上次来的寒冷多了。 早上起来才0.7度而已，真正感觉的温度（app temp) 是零下2.9 度！OMG 难怪我一直在发抖打冷颤。一下车就立刻换上了潜水服，温暖的感觉马上又回到了我的怀中。。打点好一切，就往海岸线出发！！
通往墨鱼村庄的，是一条长长的碎石大道。到水里之后，继续往前进，经过大大小小的石头，最后会来到一片一望无际青黄色的 Berry Weed。欢迎光临抵达了巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的温暖窝。
在蔚蓝的海里，大大小小的墨鱼们正在召开家庭会议。他们身上奇特鲜艳的色彩及可爱W型的眼睛是巨无霸澳洲墨鱼的特征。墨鱼们能够瞬间变换身上的颜色与周围的环境作匹配。在沙石里如果不仔细看，有时侯真的蛮难找到他们的踪影。这颜色转换特质也是他们求偶的必备，也可以说是 《墨鱼追女宝典》 里的最强杀手锏！
这趟旅程的主要目标，是希望能够看到墨鱼利用身上的颜色变换来追求伴侣，并将他们拍摄下来。很幸运的这次拍到了一些珍贵的照片及影片能和大家分享分享。以下是墨鱼们的玉照以及本届墨鱼求偶舞蹈大赛的冠军得主照片。
以下两段影片是我在摄氏10度并冷水中寻觅了好久才拍摄到的珍贵记录片。里头的男主角都很卖力地为我演出。他们身上的色素在快速的变换着，每一寸肌肤都像是一个L.E.D 在闪耀着迷人的色彩。黑白黄蓝青红绿不停的交替着，帅呆了！！ （难怪美女墨鱼会对他们如此的着迷 XD）
看到它，我好像看见了一只有很多鼻子的大象在对着我傻笑 XD
绚丽色彩浪漫的追逐战
总是觉得墨鱼的造型很像来自外太空的生物，或者是外星人的太空船 ^^
经过40了分钟，终于抵不过寒冷的海水，我上岸了。
今年墨鱼数量似乎减少了，是否是因为今年气候失常的缘故？还是因为海洋生态的改变？这一切就不得而知了。希望冬天里能有点机会参与海底生态保护及观察活动，寻找到底是什么原因导致墨鱼的数量减少了。每一次的体验，都会让我想起一句话， “只有亲身体验过，才会懂得珍惜与感恩” 。这一次也再次的见证了大自然的奥妙与神奇。地球上物种成千上万，有好多频临绝种，有好多数量在持续的递减着。无论是否是天择本来都会发生的效应，还是人类活动导致的后果，我们都应该好好的思考如何为这一切维持个平衡点，毕竟世间万物息息相关，没有一个能独立存在，而我们共享这唯一一个地球，就因该好好的爱护它，你说是吗？ =)
下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见了
老爸本就是那样感性的人，虽然平常好像时常不爽不爽而且酷酷那样子，但心地却和妈妈一样温柔善良。今天在办公室里突然收到老爸寄来的 email。时常他在报纸上看到有什么好康的东西，都会与我们家人分享。今天他又做了剪报，scan了后 email 给我们。
标题不错抢眼，对我的共鸣也蛮大的，促使我继续阅读下去，慢慢的由上往下读，看着看着，直到我读到最后一段，竟然落泪了。
我儿：
写着备忘录给你，基于三个原则：
（一）人生福祸无常，谁也不知可以活多久，有些事情还是早一点说好。
（二）我是你的父亲，我不跟你说，没有人会跟你说。
（三）者备忘录记载的，都是我经过惨痛失败的回来的体验，可以为你的成长省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好记住的事：
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。至于那些对你好的人，你除了要珍惜，感恩外，也请多防备一点，因为，每个人做每件事，总有一个原因，他对你好，未必真的是因为喜欢你，请你必须搞清楚，而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。
（二）没有人是不可代替的，没有东西是必须拥有的。看透了这一点，将来身边的人不再要你，或许失去了时间上最爱的一切时，也因该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今日你还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，越早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）世界上并没有最爱这回事。爱情只是一种刹那的感觉，而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请耐心地等候以下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦酒会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，谨记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样的我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是开奔驶，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你。如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的麻烦。
（八）我买了十多二十年六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三奖都没有中，人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见了。
标题不错抢眼，对我的共鸣也蛮大的，促使我继续阅读下去，慢慢的由上往下读，看着看着，直到我读到最后一段，竟然落泪了。
。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。
我儿：
写着备忘录给你，基于三个原则：
（一）人生福祸无常，谁也不知可以活多久，有些事情还是早一点说好。
（二）我是你的父亲，我不跟你说，没有人会跟你说。
（三）者备忘录记载的，都是我经过惨痛失败的回来的体验，可以为你的成长省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好记住的事：
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。至于那些对你好的人，你除了要珍惜，感恩外，也请多防备一点，因为，每个人做每件事，总有一个原因，他对你好，未必真的是因为喜欢你，请你必须搞清楚，而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。
（二）没有人是不可代替的，没有东西是必须拥有的。看透了这一点，将来身边的人不再要你，或许失去了时间上最爱的一切时，也因该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今日你还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，越早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）世界上并没有最爱这回事。爱情只是一种刹那的感觉，而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请耐心地等候以下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦酒会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，谨记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样的我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是开奔驶，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你。如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的麻烦。
（八）我买了十多二十年六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三奖都没有中，人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见了。
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